“What were you thinking when I asked you out?”

 

“I was thinking, ‘I’m glad she asked me out, cuz it was gonna be a long time before I got the nerve to ask her out.’”

 

“REALLY? Why?”

he always seems so cool and confidant

“I have a fear of rejection.”

with that face and that booty body?

“It would’ve taken me awhile to get around to talking to you.”

me? lil ol’ me? who am i?

“That’s interesting. I didn’t expect you to say that. Do you get hit on and approached by women a lot?”

 

“Well, yeah. That happens, girls flirting with me and stuff. But I never take them seriously. I’ve been asked out maybe 3 times in my life, you being the third.”

 

 

What a shame. And I don’t know whether to wait around, or to keep asking. If I waited for him, I’d probably still be waiting. But now does that mean I have to continually be the initiator, because he’s too scared to speak up?

 

Not.attractive.

That’s what I get for being curious. I gotta stop asking questions, cuz I have yet to be impressed with the things they say.

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ETA: Apparently, as suspected, I do need to initiate EVERYthing in order for ANYthing to happen. He can now, from here on out, kick rocks and keep waiting on that.

 

*ahem*

 

 

Please go to Andrea’s site and read her latest post.

Its a response to Steve Harvey’s comments about today’s Strawberry Letter. To sum it up, he said that men cheat on women to escape the “disconnect” he feels in their relationship (which somehow has NOTHING to do with the woman he’s in the relationship with……blatant contradiction???).

Sex means nothing to men, and its nothing for them to go and do this. Its not that he’s trying to hurt the woman he “loves”, its just that he can’t or doesn’t want to deal with the situation at home. Therefore, he temporarily seeks comfort in the problemless warmth between another woman’s legs.

Ummm, ok Steve. So where does that leave us, women, as a whole? What are WE supposed to do with that information? You said it has nothing to do with us. Its just the way men deal (or don’t deal) with issues in their relationships. Annnnd, we’re supposed to accept that?
 

lame. fuckin’ lame.

Why even bother???

Did anyone catch the show this morning?

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For you to see that
maybe you and I could be.

Sometimes Most of the time, its hard for me to believe the things men (with a romantic interest) tell me.

Wait, let me back up for a moment.

Lately, I’ve been trying to embody this art my professor calls,
“Being Present to Being Present”.

Its the process of eliminating past experiences and future expectations from your current thought, and being present to experience the here and now.

Its an unfiltered experience, that doesn’t take into account what happened before, and what you want to (or think will) happen next. Instead of dwelling on things that happened in the past (and can’t be changed), or things that have yet to happen (and may never take place), we should clear our minds and allow ourselves to fully experience what’s going on around us right NOW, at this moment.

As without filters, we are open to creativity and possibility that doesn’t usually exist when our thoughts are clouded by preconceived notions or beliefs.

 
I hope that made sense to somebody, because it makes alarming sense to me. Now, my professor was speaking from a consulting perspective, and was saying we should practice this skill in order to be better consultants. But I took it SO much further than he intended.

So instead of going into potential relationships with preconceived notions about what he’s probably gonna do, what he’s probably gonna say, and what he probably means when he says or does that……I try to have a clear and open mind, and just experience it as it is, with no filters. The possibilities are endless, when you don’t determine the ending before it happens. But to quote Big Pun……“it’s so hard.”

I wanna believe that he really likes me and is genuine when he says he wants to (at least) be friends, and I may even choose to believe him for now. But really, I’m still holding onto the thought that he could be full of it, he could just be saying this cuz it sounds good, he could mean it today but will he mean it tomorrow?

I realize that I don’t fully trust or believe men who show interest in me. They’ve been untrustworthy in the past; therefore, I expect them to be untrustworthy in the future.

What are the possibilities if I enter into potential relationships with NO expectations, NO fear, NO memory of the past, NO plans for the future, and just…………be?

 

I’m just wondering.

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Who should be hurt?
Who should be blamed?

Is it easier to take the blame or to give it?

Which one are you more inclined to do?

 

I find that I tend to place the blame upon myself, and relieve the other person of any fault. I naively acknowledge my missteps, assured that the other person will do the same. I’m not sure why I do this. I guess its easier to deal with myself and scold myself, than it is to reprimand another person. Another GROWN ass person, at that (can you tell I have a sincere issue with this?).

I believe we should all take responsibility for our own actions and our own involvement in any situation. It seems that people are quick to blame others for their shortcomings. And while others may have had an impact on your actions……ultimately, you are still responsible for the role you play.

Even if someone hits your car, and it causes you to hit someone else’s car……you’re still accountable for contacting your insurance company (assuming you had insurance to being with), filling out the proper paperwork, responding in a timely fashion, etc. You can’t just sit around and wait for someone else to take care of YOUR duties. Even though you weren’t the cause of the incident, you can certainly delay progress.

 

who’s on first?

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Age ain’t nothin’ but a number.

Real friends. About how old are your REAL, down-ass friends? All of mine are in my age range (24-28), as we either went to school together, or were in school at the same time.

While I was talking to a friend the other day, I asked him about his “real” friends and how many he had. He went on to say that he actually had a lot, from different areas of his life (work, school, hobbies, around-the-way, etc). And as he’s describing one of his friends to me, he tells me that he asks them about their report card and what not, to keep tabs on how they are doing in school.

I’m thinkin’……report card??? Exactly how old is this friend that they are getting report cards? I haven’t heard that term in YEARS!!

Turns out the friend is in high school (or was in high school, I think they graduated recently).

My friend just turned 27.

I found that to be a little……odd. I believe he and the high schooler work together, which is how they met and established this friendship. But ummmm, what does a 27 year old, and an 18 year old have in common? To the point where they become for real friends? I can understand the “big brother/mentor” relationship, but is that gonna be the person you call when you’re down and out? Or need real world advice? Or need to come stay with because your man is trippin? Or will ride with you to handle some business? Or……whatever?

It just made me wonder. I don’t see myself being extra close with a high schooler. Then again, I’m not in a situation where I am around teens (Thank God), so the likelihood of me meeting one and befriending one is pretty non-existent.

 

What about your friends???

is it possible?

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