so (im)mature
September 24th, 2007 | 
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Age ain’t nothin’ but a number.
Real friends. About how old are your REAL, down-ass friends? All of mine are in my age range (24-28), as we either went to school together, or were in school at the same time.
While I was talking to a friend the other day, I asked him about his “real” friends and how many he had. He went on to say that he actually had a lot, from different areas of his life (work, school, hobbies, around-the-way, etc). And as he’s describing one of his friends to me, he tells me that he asks them about their report card and what not, to keep tabs on how they are doing in school.
I’m thinkin’……report card??? Exactly how old is this friend that they are getting report cards? I haven’t heard that term in YEARS!!
Turns out the friend is in high school (or was in high school, I think they graduated recently).
My friend just turned 27.
I found that to be a little……odd. I believe he and the high schooler work together, which is how they met and established this friendship. But ummmm, what does a 27 year old, and an 18 year old have in common? To the point where they become for real friends? I can understand the “big brother/mentor” relationship, but is that gonna be the person you call when you’re down and out? Or need real world advice? Or need to come stay with because your man is trippin? Or will ride with you to handle some business? Or……whatever?
It just made me wonder. I don’t see myself being extra close with a high schooler. Then again, I’m not in a situation where I am around teens (Thank God), so the likelihood of me meeting one and befriending one is pretty non-existent.
What about your friends???
is it possible?
This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
We all have friends for diffrent reasons.
Real friends listen, offer feedback.
Real friends encourage and inspire.
Real friends help you to see a brighter day.
Real friends can be there for financial reasons.
Not everyone can encompass all of that sometimes but that doesn’t diminish their ability to be the friend that you need.
I think if I spent more time at church I would most definitely have some younger friends.
Also, what they have in common is this:
video games
Friends with a high schooler? That just reeks of a “Ripped from the headlines” Lifetime Movie event!
Well my sister has a friend that’s about 30, whom she met from one of her past jobs. I found their friendship kinda odd (esp after she quit that job), but being that my sister has had to grow up immensely in a small amount of time, I guess their worlds aren’t really that far apart. However, that’s the exception and not the rule. I’m with you. An 18 year old can’t do anything but remind me of how dumb I was almost 10 years ago. The end. LOL.
hmmmmmmmmmmmmm…that would send off some warning bells. Not so much in the “creepy teacher does 15yr old” but in the inappropriate boundaries area. I can see mentor but friend? hmmm. Oh I’ve moved! lol nextevolution.wordpress.com
Age is nothing but a number that is frequently adjusted to coincide with one’s cover persona for the secret mission at hand.
I think it all depends on the person’s mentality. Not everyone is the same and to put people in categories just because of their age seems wrong. Sure the majority of teens are immature, but what about the other half, who actually have a mind that is set on something other then the mall?
My question is what they don’t have in common?
“Age ain’t nothing but a number”. It’s the person you need to be looking at, not the number. =)
Haaaa… too funny! I don’t think I would be that tight with a high schooler either. I definitely would see that as a mentor type relationship like you said. Maybe the 27 y/o has some growing up to do.
My real friends (the few that there are) are people in my age range also. Even then, some people still haven’t gotten out of that H.S. mentality.
“We all have friends for different reasons.”
True dat. Perhaps there is adequate room and reason for the friendship.
“It’s the person you need to be looking at, not the number.”
Good point, Roxanne. I tend to agree with that sentiment. I was/am pretty mature for my age, so I’ve always had older friends. Then again, they weren’t my “folx”, if you know what I mean.
“Even then, some people still haven’t gotten out of that H.S. mentality.”
How bout it, Miss. I wonder if its the 18 year old that has an older mentality, or the 27 year old that has the younger mentality. That’ll take some more observation and conversation.
~B. Good