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September 28th, 2007 | 
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“What were you thinking when I asked you out?”
“I was thinking, ‘I’m glad she asked me out, cuz it was gonna be a long time before I got the nerve to ask her out.’”
“REALLY? Why?”
he always seems so cool and confidant
“I have a fear of rejection.”
with that face and that booty body?
“It would’ve taken me awhile to get around to talking to you.”
me? lil ol’ me? who am i?
me? lil ol’ me? who am i?
“That’s interesting. I didn’t expect you to say that. Do you get hit on and approached by women a lot?”
“Well, yeah. That happens, girls flirting with me and stuff. But I never take them seriously. I’ve been asked out maybe 3 times in my life, you being the third.”
What a shame. And I don’t know whether to wait around, or to keep asking. If I waited for him, I’d probably still be waiting. But now does that mean I have to continually be the initiator, because he’s too scared to speak up?
Not.attractive.
That’s what I get for being curious. I gotta stop asking questions, cuz I have yet to be impressed with the things they say.
This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
ETA: Apparently, as suspected, I do need to initiate EVERYthing in order for ANYthing to happen. He can now, from here on out, kick rocks and keep waiting on that.
*ahem*
re: does that mean I have to continually be the initiator, because he’s too scared to speak up?
I got myself caught up in one just like this. I don’t even know what to do.
Well GC, if you don’t mind being the resident initiator……I say keep on keepin on’. If you DO mind, then just stop initiating, and let the chips falls where they may. Maybe he’ll pick em up, maybe he won’t. But I think if he wants the same things that you want, he’ll pick ‘em up.
At least, that’s what I’ve decided to do. Time will tell if its a good move or not. However, while I stopped initiating interaction with one fella, another fella stepped up and initiated some convo of his own. So far, I think I’m doing what is best for me.
~B. Good
This is definitely interesting. I understand being shy and whatnot but WHERE does it end? I’ve initiated before..jeebus WHY! *ahem* In that situation i wound up having to plan this, that and the other. Got old. I was like DUDE! don’t you have a creative or assertive bone in ur body! Hmphf! *coming back to reality* I think it all depends on their personality. *taking my baggage back to my website*
I understand INITIAL initiation, but ongoing? My grandma would probably frown at me for being so forward as to ask a man out, but to hear that that was my norm? She’s scratch my eyes out…LOL. First of all, it’s a bust period for a man not to be able to express interest. I understand fear of rejection; hell, women have it to. But once it’s established that there’s a mutual “like” why can’t the man at least meet the woman halfway? Why can’t the man take it all the way? Excuses, excuses…
“I understand being shy and whatnot but WHERE does it end?”
“I understand fear of rejection……But once it’s established that there’s a mutual “like”……
Can I get a witness up in here?? I did the hard part, damn. Lame.
~B. Good
I’m glad I go for what I want, when I want it. I hate wondering. Plus I can handle rejection well.
Yeah, you’ll prob always end up being the initiator. Next thing you know, you gotta propose to him and buy a damn ring! LOL j/k. He needs to man up!
Good decision you made though… throw the ball in his court and see what he does with it.
Yeah, I don’t find that attractive either. I need the guy to be able to show his feelings, not let his fears get the best of him.
Even more annoying than not saying anything, is when they try to play little games to see how you feel without making themselves vulnerable in any way.
re a comment by Young Miss
Next thing you know, you gotta propose to him and buy a damn ring! LOL j/k. He needs to man up!
do you know I was actually considering this?!!! after reading a NYTIMES article where a woman mentioned having done that. I’m like, hey, maybe that’s what I should do if I feel that strongly. And then the Lord answered a prayer I had not even prayed yet and allowed me to see some things. The Lord showed me that I need to slow my roll.
*tear* Thanks! Sanity is a fleeting concept…somedays, you don’t even a wanna mess with me! There might be a purple elephant in the room or sumthin! Mucho props to you too! I wish 3 classes could be my magic number…pesky insurance sayin I gots to be full time grrrrrrrrrrr. *breathe* Have a good day!
Yea, it’s cute for what, the first week? After that, well let’s just say, pathetic. No offense to anyone. I’m a shy person and will only ever be the “initiator” when motivated to. Which is 35% of the time…haha. But if a guy ask me out, I sure as hell after that will be doing everything I can to keep him wanting more!(not only sex you gutter minds!) Same goes for him of course. =P