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Shopping for self-realization.
For those new to the blog, I used to do Weight Watchers Wednesday’s where I would track my weekly weight loss. I lost about 32 lbs, and I’m lookin and feelin pretty damn good. Yay.
What’s remarkable is that I hadn’t lost weight since the Spring of 2002. I’d been gaining ever since then. So to go into a mall these days and actually put on a *smaller* size (rather than try to squeeze into my “current” size), and even find myself liking the way I look, is new and exciting.
Meanwhile……others haven’t been as……fortunate (for lack of a better word). I’ve noticed that a friend of mine has been gaining while I’ve been losing. We were actually about the same size when I started losing weight. She might’ve even been smaller than me, but that since has changed. She tries quick fixes like the Master Cleanse or some random shake diet. But those never work, and she never stays on them long enough to see the temporary results they produce.
I feel like she snapped at me the other day, and its probably my fault. We went shopping for her birthday dress, only she didn’t see anything (in her size) that she liked. Well, we only went to one store, Macys, which happens to be my favorite. While we were in the dress section, I happened upon a dress in a size I was wondering if I could fit into. I didn’t care so much about the style or pattern of the dress, as I did about the size. I was just curious. Low and behold, IT FIT! And it was actually a rather stunning dress (if I say so myself - I’da bought that sucker too if it wasn’t $150). I asked her to come and check it out. She comes into the dressing room and says, “It looks fine. Now take it off so we can get outta here.”
Damn. 
She didn’t ooh and aah like I thought she would. Then again, since we were there looking to get HER a dress, and I end up trying to show off one I found for myself was kinda insensitive. But it wasn’t on purpose, and I can’t help it if she didn’t find anything. Well, I won’t make that mistake again.
I wonder whats the reason behind her gaining this weight lately. I don’t think she’s happy with her life in NY. Matter of fact, I know she’s not. I feel so bad, and I wish there was something I could do to help. I’m hoping she’ll figure it out soon. I guess all I can do is be there, for the time being.
I know what its like to feel helpless in the weight battle. Sometimes I still feel like “DAMN, ISN’T IT GONE, YET?”, but I also know its possible and the only thing holding me back is me, so I try to stay positive. And there wasn’t anything anyone could say that would help me get my mind right (believe me, my mom tried and tried). I had to just get it on my own.
I’ll be praying for my friend, more than usual, and I know she’ll come through 100 percent.
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The green eyed monster reared its head…
but yay for you being such an awesome friend that you looked beyond that and saw that she may have a deeper issue.
that’s why you’re MY BFF!
Posted by: Andrea | October 15th, 2007 16:39
First, thank you SO much for commenting on my blog. My first comment! I’m always going to remember you for this, especially since I haven’t officially gone “public” yet
Anyway, I am so feeling you. Congrats on your loss.I lost a large (pun intended) amount of weight and I could go on and on about my life since then and the things I’ve encountered. You’re absolutely right, there’s nothing you can SAY to her. She just has to reach her breaking point where enough is enough. Meanwhile, you keep it moving….on down!
Posted by: Vivrant Thang | October 16th, 2007 00:03
I think it’s so awesome that you stuck with WW and got to where you wanted to be. It’s sad that you’re friend isn’t happy - but I’m sure she knows you weren’t trying to be insensitive.
As a random side note, I re-signed up for WW today and went to my first meeting in 3 months. woohoo! I’ll be in ONE-derland by xmas. And then we can rock those crazy outfits! hehe
Posted by: Aimee | October 16th, 2007 00:14
Yeah, she’s usually pretty encouraging, but I guess she was having a moment. I can’t blame her, entirely.
Congrats on your weight loss Vivrant! You gotta share what you did. I love to hear those kind of motivational stories.
And I’m joining the Weight Watchers @ Work program which begins this week. I can’t wait to see more results!
~B. Good
Posted by: B. Good | October 16th, 2007 07:53
Whoo to the hooo for YOU! That is awesome!!
Your friend will come around.
Posted by: Tex In The City | October 16th, 2007 09:27
That’s great.
I have thought about going on Weight Watchers… yea…I thought about it.
It’s obvious that I am going to be stuck at 150 ’cause I am not even thinking about getting healthy or eating healthy.
Sorry to hear about your friend not liking her move here… why doesn’t she like it?
Posted by: Blah Blah Blah | October 16th, 2007 12:28
Well, she has way less friends than she did before (namely male friends). I can SO relate (but actually, I’ve had more male friends in NY, interesting).
And……its pretty hard to make it in NY. This is an expensive city, and there’s barely any middle ground. She’s got some financial issues that are frustrating her, so she’s thinkin’ of moving back home. I would SO miss her.
It makes me sad thinkin’ about it.
~B. Good
Posted by: B. Good | October 16th, 2007 12:57
Maybe she was just having a rough day. Might not have had anything to do with anything.
I think praying for her is the best thing you can do.
Posted by: GC | October 16th, 2007 15:58
I’ve been sort of acting like your friend towards one of my cousins here during my “vacation”. The last time I saw my cousin, I was a size 6 and she was a size 15. Now the tables have turned and she is a size 6, while I moved up to 8-10. The worst part she had a baby not even a year ago! So, yea I’ve been kind of jealous of her even though I shouldn’t be.
Does Weight Watchers really help? I REALLY want to lose some of the excess fat I’ve been gaining lately, but I don’t know what to do. One time I went to the extreme of eating only once a day and it worked, but then a week later I would gain it all back. So, I’m trying to look into these weight programs to help me. I know I’m not OVERLY fat or anything, but I just don’t feel or think I look real good as I am now. Oh well. =(
Posted by: Roxanne | October 16th, 2007 21:59
I swear by Weight Watchers. It works if you follow the program, which really isn’t hard to do. They lay it all out and structure it for you, so you CAN’T fail (if you’re serious about losing). And it doesn’t matter if its 5 lbs or 50 lbs, they can help. (I sound like a PSA, but it really is a good program)
If anyone has questions or wants to ask me about it, feel free to send me an email (I’m creating my contact page right now!).
 
~B. Good
Posted by: B. Good | October 17th, 2007 07:38