a business not your own
October 31st, 2007 | 
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When your friend’s man does wrong.
Can you forgive him? For her sake, if not your own?
People make mistakes, people change. He’s probably a better person today than he was before. If she finds it in her heart to forgive,
Are there any conditions? Does he owe YOU anything? Is it any of your business?
I feel like this……
……I’d want the same (or similar) apology and explanation for his actions. Maybe I wouldn’t deserve it, maybe it would be askin’ for too much, but I’d want it all the same. I’d feel mislead and affected by his behavior. I’m someone who would (gladly) support the weight that he’d leave on her heart. So how bout when he wants it back?
Well thats nice. And I’d even welcome him back, but not without a fight. He’d need to convince me that he made some serious and unwavering changes in his mentality, that would prevent him from making the same mistake again. Because if it were to happen again……oh Lord if it were to happen again……he’d be limpin’ his sorry ass back to wherever he came from. If he’s lucky.
Point.blank.period.
That’s what I’d want.
What I wouldn’t want, is to make it any harder on my friend to move on with the life she wants; be it with him or otherwise. In that regard, I feel like I should back down if the situation arises, and just let them work it out for themselves. I’m sure it would be tough enough without my 2 dollars chippin in (cuz trust and believe, I’d have more than 2 cents to contribute).
No matter the outcome, I’d want her to know that I’m here.
Forever, whenever, whatever.
This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
some things are unforgivable. ie if your friend’s man tells her she’s too fat. I’m not even sorry. I’m glad she’s moved on and I will never forget that he said it.
So I guess we just have to be so careful what we say to our girlfriends.
Interesting topic. My bff got married a couple of months ago to a man I wasn’t sure was worthy of her. He has done some things over the years and in recent months that had me questioning whether they should be together, much less married. However, I said my piece and left it alone. That’s all you can do. Grown ass people are going to do what they want. All you can do is be there for them no matter how the cookie crumbles.
Recently I told my best friend that every time I see her boyfriend I want to kick him in the groin with a very pointy shoe. I don’t because he is 10 times bigger than me, 100 times stronger than me and well, I am trying to become a better person.
I LOVE her…I barely tolerate his existence in our lives. But like you, I said my piece and drop it. I really want HER to choose and she doesn’t need me giving her man the stink eye every time we meet.
(sigh)
I hear you.
If I’m supposed to “welcome” him back without a word, though, then she needs to take him back without a word to me about how he’s acting up, again - not if she’s gonna stay with that ass.
Obviously, I’m speaking from experience, but honestly, I’ve moved on to a point where I’m less invested in my friends’ happiness/decisions as I once was. It’s the only way I can be there for her when she’s being dogged and then still be that damned dog comes back home.