so in control
You got everything
And anything I need
Want you to bring it to me Baby
Take Control of Me
I wish I knew how to relax, and let others take charge. I don’t know what its like to be in the passenger seat, cuz I’m always driving (literally and figuratively). Fact of the matter is, I’m not comfortable in the passenger seat, cuz I don’t really trust the driving skills of others. I prefer to be in control, so I know whats going on at all times.
But I’m tired of driving. I don’t wanna do it no more. Sometimes I wish I didn’t even have a car, so I’d have no choice.
It would be so nice to let someone else take the reigns, and all I would have to do is show up and sit down. But the more capable you are, the more others lean on you. So what’s a girl to do?
Be less capable? I don’t think I could do it if I tried.
I can’t accept help from others. Gifts and compliments make me nervous. And at the same time, I so want to receive. I’m at the point where I need it. I just do.
just relax b.
This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
Hmph. Janet was tryna get control, and Amerie’s tryna give it away. Meanwhile I’m tap dancin’ around somewhere in the middle……
Now I’m all grown up.
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Interesting.
It is hard for girls like us. Maybe baby steps. I’m convinced that when the right one comes, it won’t be that hard. I think we’re uneasy cuz sumthin in the gut is like, “he aint even got is OWN isht under control.” LOL.
“THE” One won’t need us to give up our control, he’ll take it *sounds dirty…LOL*
Posted by: Andrea | November 7th, 2007 13:16
Yup, and to quote Da Brat, “thats what I’m lookin’ for.” Someone to just take it (dirty and otherwise).
I hope it won’t be that hard (well actually……ummm, you know what I mean).
~B. Good
Posted by: B. Good | November 7th, 2007 13:32
Leg surgery has caused me to sit back and let others do for me. I have had to gain the patience to wait on someone else. That two weeks bed rest did it. My car is a manual, so I also have to let someone else drive me around or run my errands for me.
So I don’t wish that type of injury on you, but sometimes you might want to give the other person a chance.
Posted by: nexgrl | November 7th, 2007 13:54
Yeah, I know what you mean. The older and more independent I get, the less I trust folx to get things done. And with men it’s even worse. It’s like I almost subconsciously expect them to f*ck it up or not come through so I don’t even ask. NOT good.
Posted by: Vivrant Thang | November 7th, 2007 16:20
I can relate to this. As much I as wish I could let someone else take control for a while, I know I can’t. Too much would happen if I just sat back and let someone else take the steering wheel. (Literally and figuratively) Now, since I’m just entering the world of adult-hood (19) is where I’m learning that I need to be in control, for if not, things will just pass me by like a car trying to cut me off.
All I can say is, if you can try it for a while, then go for it. Taste it, if it leaves a sour taste in your mouth, throw it away and go back to your normal routine.
Posted by: Roxanne | November 7th, 2007 23:40
I am the most submissive woman I know. Sorta.
Posted by: Blah Blah Blah | November 8th, 2007 13:24
It’s hard giving up control. As far as other people always needing, I had to learn to say no inorder to protect me. As far as accepting gifts and compliments, I had to realize that I was truly worth it and deserved to be appreciated. Just this morning someone gave me a compliment and I literally had to coach myself “say thank you. don’t think it’s not true. just say thank you”. It takes time and practice!
Posted by: Serenity aka Justbreathe | November 8th, 2007 13:41