so useless
November 12th, 2007 | 
Category: *2nd post of the day - look out below*
I remember what I wanted to blog about. She may or may not read this, but I hope she doesn’t mind me sharing.
This weekend, a girlfriend of mine called me. We don’t talk on the phone too often (we usually IM), so when I saw her name pop up on the caller ID (and with this week I’ve had with “friends”) I was excited to answer.
She proceeds to tell me that she went on a road trip to attend a business conference for an organization we both are apart of. When she got ready to leave and head back home, she realized that she had a flat tire. She asked the guys who attended the conference with her if they could help her out, and do you know that they said NO. Not just NO, but somethin’ along the lines of, “Now that I got this degree and what not, I’m no longer obligated to perform manual/physical labor.”
Excuse you?
I damn near hit the roof. And do you know these suckas didn’t even wait with her while she called for help to make sure that 1) the help showed up, and 2) the help didn’t kill her in the process. I doubt they even followed up to see if she made it home alright. So she calls me while she’s stranded in Philadelphia, miles away from her home in Virginia, just to let me know what was going on.
I told myself not to get too riled up about it because, those guys will get it back. They’ll be stuck, in need of some help, and someone will stare them in their faces and say a big phat NO!, and keep it moving. I just pray that they make it out safely, like my girlfriend did.
This just takes me back to the thought, MEN……FOR WHAT?
I know, I know. “Not all men are this way.” I remember when I had a flat tire, and a friend’s beau willingly helped me out. I ain’t saying he was excited to do it, but he didn’t just leave me hanging. But hell, he had some other behavioral problems that landed him on the WACK list, so……back to my original thought……
Most days Some days I get to wondering, what can a man do for me that I can’t do for myself? I’m starting to think its less and less. Actually, I’ve having trouble coming up with one thing. You can’t even rely on guy “friends/acquaintances” (these weren’t strangers) to help you when you are in a vulnerable and threatening position??? Oooo, it makes me wanna slap someone AND their momma.
Blatant generalization from a severely, opinionated woman.
Yup. and?
This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
*Shaking my head*
that is a sin. A complete SIN.
Women and men don’t need each other in my opinion. But it’s nice to have someone special is all. You CAN do damn near everything for/by yourself. But to give and receive love is a beautiful thing.
That is triflin beyond words.
Two points: One THAT right there is why I not only have AAA but roadside assistance through my cell phone provider. Too many things can happen and that is just RUDE for a man to pass by and just say no like that.
Next to add to what GC said about doing for and by yourself. It’s situations like what your friend went through this weekend that causes some people to get fiercely independent to the point that when someone actually *wants* to help they are afraid to accept!
WOW!! That’s like triflin on a WHOLE NEW LEVEL!! I can’t BELIEVE that grown MEN would do something like that. And in a different state no less!! If she ever speaks to them again you should slap her because that is grounds for IMMEDIATE CUT OFF. I’m so mad for her! Knee grows!!
No, you had it right in the beginning calling them “guys.” Those were not MEN. And yes, what goes up must come down.
My brother has said the exact same thing to me on more than one occasion. I sought his help with manual labor that I had seen him perform in the past. He just wasn’t having it.
I coulda swore I commented yesterday….dammit.
I feel bad for her but am happy she’s fine. As for not helping…that’s craziness.
that was fucked up…
(even though i kina chuckled cause i was tryna picture her face when they said no. cause i know she was so SURE they were gonna come to the rescue)
then again, maybe that was HER karma comin back to her…*shrugs*
A covert operative is the kind of man to whom one would be wise not to give attitude
men are triflin that wasn’t a real man if he didn’t help her