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November 15th, 2007 | 
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Talk to me
Tell me what’s on your mind
Talk to me
What are you feeling inside
I hear it (and say it) all the time……communication is key in any relationship or situation. What happens when the communication is there at first, but fades to black as you go along? Is there any way to jumpstart it?
Sometimes its what you don’t say that counts. They say non-verbal communication is just as important (if not MORE important) than verbal communication. Matter of fact, I think the majority of communication is non-verbal (isn’t there some statistic out there, like 80% of communication is non-verbal).
So basically, actions really do speak louder than words. With that being the case, I guess there’s no need to jumpstart the verbal communication if the non-verbal is shouting at you.
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i dont agree that actions speak louder than words…
to me its more like actions are INTERPRETED much different than words.
I have seen it time and again when one party does something and the other is completely taken back by it. when the reality there was no malicious intent behind the action.
so whats more important…the intent behind the action, or the perception?
i agree with you BGood! Esp the LAST sentence…sometimes the actions are super loud and we choose to ignore them.
Sometimes people just say DUMB SHIT tho…and at that point? I’on even wait for the action…
As far as jumpstarting communication that has dwindled, I think it takes 2. If you’re the only one that notices and/or cares to do sumthin about it, it’s harder to do, if not impossible.
Good post.
Let the church say amen. Im in a situation now and his non verbal is speaking VOLUMES. Please believe it!
sometimes it’s good to keep quiet
if you can’t enjoy silence with each other, are you really comfortable being around each other?
I’m from the school of thought that actions speak louder than words. All that blah blah blah means nothing if your actions are saying something totally different. Most people can talk a good game all night long. But watch what they DO. That’s where the real mf’er is.
When the communication isnt there it seems like starting it is the hardest thing ever! but I find that going back to the old school way of communicating…the kind that endeared you to the person in the first place, works well. Like maybe a funny IM, or a text, or an impromptu game of “”20 Questions/Truth or Dare/I Never”. Whatever’s nostalgic and unstressful. Good luck!!
I think with everything its about balance. Actions often times speak louder than words but we can’t ignore what a person says. And it also depends on the individuals; the ones conveying the message and the ones receiving. How we receive a message will always be colored by past experiences and our personal knowledge base. How a person chooses to convey a message is based on the same things. The problem is we all have different experiences and knowledge bases. I find that the best solution is to figure out what the person you are trying to talk to will understand clearer.