simple and attainable
December 10th, 2007 | 
Category: bgoodies, decisions for you, general discussions, marriage carriage, opposite sex, side thoughts
Well, I went to that holiday party. Stayed about an hour or so, then bounced. It wasn’t really a “sit at the bar” kind of atmosphere, as there were people lined up tryna get a drink ALL night.* So that was a no go. I stood around at these tables for awhile, but I was pretty bored. One guy did talk to me while I was gettin a drink, but it was nothin’ like the convo I had predicted. He said, “Oh, you like Bombay Sapphire?” Umm, no, I just like ordering it. “Yeah, I’m a Bombay drinker myself.” Thats great.
This whole
I was watching MTV’s True Life - “I’m in an Arranged Marriage”, and started thinking that maybe thats not such a bad idea. Two people coming together for the sake of marriage and family, who are determined to make it work because thats what they value. The more I thought about it, the more comfortable I got with the idea.
I was also watching Animal Planet all weekend and took notice of the way that animals live. Their purpose in life seems so
It helped me to realize that the seemingly lonesome path that I’m on is exactly where I’m supposed to be (and need to be). If nothing else, my life is simple these days, especially with school winding down (Thank Ya Jeeesus!). I have no one, absolutely NO ONE, to worry about, answer to, or take care of, but me and God. I have little to no distraction keeping me from my purpose. His purpose. Truth be told, the only thing that can get in my way now……is me.
My life, my purpose, is positioned to be
This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
* ok, what’s with the thirsty ass people fightin’ to get a drink at the bar?? NAMELY, some thirsty ass dudes who will push a woman to the side so they can get their drink. Its SO not that serious. I can either wait my turn, or just back away from the bar. I couldn’t believe the way grown folx were actin just to get some liquor. There were only 3 bartenders and fiddy-leven of us. Just wait your damn turn!
Cooooome home
that was about as much as I could muster while driving on the freeway and typing on the blackberry…
I’m trying to be supportive, but…I want you to come home already.
*looks up* You and me both sands.
But in other news, I’m glad you picked up the book. I looked at it the other day and thought the same thing. As soon as I’m back home, I’m back in it to win it. I think I left off at Chapter 7. Your blog is kinda in line with what Bishop talked about yesterday. Hopefully I have time to blog today (i’m on the road probably til DARK) and then you can read about it. If not, I’ll see about grabbing a CD.
This isolation thing is no joke, but the promise on the other side sounds like where we REALLY wanna be. Sometimes we hafta let go of the things we want to get the things that we really need. I’m over fighting and playing tug of war with the Lord. He always wins. So I’d rather just bow out than wind up trying to pull this rope and having my feet pulled out from under me with my butt in the mud…LOL.
I like this post.
Thought provoking…
…budda, right now…I don’t have any thought provoking response.
…oh, isn’t that the purpose of most marriages? Well dammit, it should be.
“NAMELY, some thirsty ass dudes who will push a woman to the side so they can get their drink. Its SO not that serious.”
LMFAO!
This has got to be a new trend. Dudes are RUTHLESS these days. I like to network naturally; you meet someone, strike up a convo, they don’t irritate you to death, you both realize you may need to keep in touch, exchange cards and that’s it. These functions designed to throw people together for forced fellowship is beyond me.
Courtney…it ain’t happenin ANYtime soon, lol. But I miss you too!
Andrea…Wow! Me and Bishop are (still) on the same page with mileage between us. But yeah, I’m focusing on that other side. I’m convinced it’s all I have to live for.
Blah…Ya know what?? I think that is supposed to be the purpose of most marriages. Hmph. Why doesn’t it seem like it?
La…chiiilleee, no home training for these dudes. NONE whatsoever. I talked with a friend of mine, and she’s sure it was the venue I went to. So, I guess I’ll let her guide me and give it another shot.
~B. Good
Dude who asked you about the drink was trying to strike up a conversation. His attempt failed.
Yea I agree with Nexgrl. Either he had no “game” or conversation so he didn’t know where to take it from there. Or you gave him the “nigga please” side-eye and he lost his nerve.
Yes, whether it seems like it or not, you are in the best times of your life….where you have no one to focus on but you and your purpose for being here. If /when you get married and have little crumbsnatchers, you can never get those times back because your whole identity changes. Some of my friends that are there say those will be the best times of your life. But I’m not yet convinced. I believe great times lie ahead, but to me, the time is NOW.
Oh and yea, it was your location. When you are around grown ass men, they recognize it’s ladies first…or in some cases, even order or buy your drink for you.
Interesting post.
Sincere inquiry: Are you just at these functions waiting for someone to talk to you or are you actively attempting to engage people, as well?
Well West…I really don’t know what I’m doin’ at these functions. I’m mostly attempting to step outside of my doors and see whats out there.
To try and answer your question, I wasn’t too active in trying to engage people at this particular function. I was just observing, for the most part. But I did managed to spark some convo with a couple ladies I met in line (one even complimented me on my outfit). Does that count?
~B. Good
I feel you on that networking thing. over my head i need a hook up
re maybe thats not such a bad idea
I certainly agree. Arranged marriages have their flaws but love matches fail at a ridiculous rate. Either way it’s going to be some hard work so why the heck not.
I am so glad I read this post. It baffles me that people can even have expectations at a bar/club to meet “the one.” I mean seriously…What can a guy possibly talk to a woman about in that setting? Stimulating conversation is just not a real option in my opinion. It’s one thing if you meet somewhere else and decide to go out dancing or something along those lines. The random pick up tho?? H-to the No. That’s just me tho. As a Jamaican, the best kind of parties are the house style ones like you mentioned.
Ok, can I tell you how much I loved this post? I was like “Dag, my girl waxin poetic and speakin to my spirit and what not”…then I read your footnote and it all went out the window ROFL!! You are a fool Ok? Just wanted to let you know that lol.
But seriously, what you wrote is so profound and so what I need right now. I’ve never made it all the way through my Purpose Driven Life book and if it wasn’t packed away in storage (guess I wasn’t tryna get my spiritual on for the next couple months lol) I would have picked it back up again after reading this. You’ve definitely given me some food for thought. I forget sometimes that I am ALWAYS where I’m supposed to be. If I just stop, look around, enjoy the scenery and learn my lessons, my next destination will take care of itself.