…is the hand that rules the world.

No doubt. Parents and guardians have more influence over the fate of our being than they know.

Last night, a guy I met months ago called me for the first time. We were exchanging small talk and he asked me if I have kids. I wasn’t sure if I heard him right, and started choking on the phone. I asked him to repeat what he said, and I answered him with a very enthusiastic “No! “. Immediately, I could tell he was taken aback by my response. At that moment I realized, oh, he probably has a kid. He asked about my strong reaction to his question; if I didn’t like kids and so on. I told him that I don’t like kids for ME. There’s no place in my life right now for a kid. And thats when he gives me the, “Oh, I understand. Well, I do have a kid. A daughter.” Of course he does. Don’t they all?

I don’t think he was entirely offended by my reply, but there was a hint of the usual, “WHY? What’s wrong with having kids?” reaction I get from parents when I express my firm disinterest in having children. Its like they take it as a judgment on their decision to procreate. (How self-centered are we?? LOL) Its not that at all. Its just that I’m not ready to have the fate of the world in my hands right now. That power is unfathomable and completely beyond me at the moment; hence, my strong reaction to the question.

So parents, don’t get me wrong. You are the chosen ones; hand-picked to define the destiny of this world.

 

*WHOA*

Just typing that gave me the shivers.

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Procrastinator.

Why are you waiting until next year to make that change or make “it” happen? Next year is really just something that happens overnight. The moment 11:59 turns to midnight. What miraculous thing is going to happen in that one minute, that can’t happen today?? Are you gonna get some random surge of motivation? Maybe you will, but what’s stopping you from getting that surge at this moment?

I know, its that whole idea, the spirit of the new year, and wiping the slate clean. But why wait?? Wipe it down now.

Don’t get lost in the illusion of the new year, because the new you doesn’t have to wait until then.

 

 

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Well, I went to that holiday party. Stayed about an hour or so, then bounced. It wasn’t really a “sit at the bar” kind of atmosphere, as there were people lined up tryna get a drink ALL night.* So that was a no go. I stood around at these tables for awhile, but I was pretty bored. One guy did talk to me while I was gettin a drink, but it was nothin’ like the convo I had predicted. He said, “Oh, you like Bombay Sapphire?” Umm, no, I just like ordering it. “Yeah, I’m a Bombay drinker myself.” Thats great.

This whole event/party/socializing/networking/drinking/talking thing is over my head. I’d rather be at somebody’s home. Which led me to the thought that I need to start working off of referrals. I need someone to hook me up. Problem is, I need a referral just to get the referral.

I was watching MTV’s True Life - “I’m in an Arranged Marriage”, and started thinking that maybe thats not such a bad idea. Two people coming together for the sake of marriage and family, who are determined to make it work because thats what they value. The more I thought about it, the more comfortable I got with the idea.

I was also watching Animal Planet all weekend and took notice of the way that animals live. Their purpose in life seems so simple and attainable. They merely do the things that God created them to do. Eat, sleep, make babies, raise them to survive on their own, wash, rinse, repeat. I started thinking about what God created me to do. Then I remembered that I hadn’t picked up my Purpose Driven Life book in awhile, so I got back into it.

It helped me to realize that the seemingly lonesome path that I’m on is exactly where I’m supposed to be (and need to be). If nothing else, my life is simple these days, especially with school winding down (Thank Ya Jeeesus!). I have no one, absolutely NO ONE, to worry about, answer to, or take care of, but me and God. I have little to no distraction keeping me from my purpose. His purpose. Truth be told, the only thing that can get in my way now……is me.

My life, my purpose, is positioned to be simple and attainable. And if marriage & family is on the menu, I think I’ll wait for my Father to arrange it.

 

 

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* ok, what’s with the thirsty ass people fightin’ to get a drink at the bar?? NAMELY, some thirsty ass dudes who will push a woman to the side so they can get their drink. Its SO not that serious. I can either wait my turn, or just back away from the bar. I couldn’t believe the way grown folx were actin just to get some liquor. There were only 3 bartenders and fiddy-leven of us. Just wait your damn turn!

 

 

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……giiirrlll who are you holdin
**love that song**

Its that time of year again. Leaves are turning brown, falling off trees, covering the sidewalk, blowing in the wind, and scaring B. Good half to death because she thinks its a rodent scurrying about at her feet.

 
Its also that time of year when people tend to get down. Solemn. Just plain ol’ sad. Is it a coincidence? Or is the change of the season that depressing? They say a lot of tragedy occurs around this time. People lose loved ones, they lose themselves, they remember lost loves, they’re alone with no one to share this special time with……

 
Really, I think its just too damn cold and folks lose their minds. Its averaged about 30 degrees here, and we’ve even had some snowfall. You know what that means? Stay your ass inside and try not to leave the house unless its absolutely necessary.

I still haven’t learned how to function in cold ass weather, so I’ve been spending a lot of time indoors. Alone. And its become quite dangerous.

 

1. Its just me and my thoughts to keep me company. Anyone who knows me, knows that I’m a thinker. I ponder, meditate, ruminate, contemplate EVERYTHING. A million thoughts a minute. It takes me forever to fall asleep because my brain needs at least an hour to go through all of its thoughts until it finally settles down into a wild and adventurous dream that keeps it busy and active all night. I mean it NEVER stops.
    

2. Last night, I found myself having a drink and a black by my lonesome. Messed around and got a lil faded (throwback word alert!!! ), only for my mom to call bring my high back down. However, I slept pretty sound the whole night. Didn’t take too long to get there either. And it wasn’t hard for me to get up the next day. I could get used to having a regular nightcap. Oh, but I did have a some extra digestive activity for most of the morning. I don’t think I could get used to that……ever since I stopped drinkin’ it, the hard liquor does that to me. (T.M.I. ALERT!!! - oh, guess I shoulda told yall that first)
    

3. I discussed it with myself and decided that I’m going to this charity holiday party tonight. Guess who’s going with me??? That’s right!! NOBODY! This can be good or bad, depending on how you look at it. Either way, I’m still going. It’s supposed to rain today. But I’m still going.

   Lord willing, I’ll get me a seat at the bar. I’ll be in a prime location; ripe for dippin and dodgin the 40-yr old macks tryna get they groove on with a young, fine tenda such as myself. But maybe, just maybe, I’ll pick up a nice, fine brotha who didn’t expect someone as wonderful as I to be present at this event. And alone. He’ll ask me, “what you doin’ here alone? Where yo MAN at? Why you ain’t got no man? I don’t believe that. You’re too fine. I’m sayin’, what’s a brotha gotta do to get next to you? I know you got ‘em lined up, don’t you girl? DAMN YOU THICK!“……blah, blah, blah. Or worse, he’ll try to hook me up with his homeboy who’s too *fill in the blank* to come and speak to me himself.

 
Yeah, ummm……

 

tis the season?

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