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Truly, an amazing event.

I was dragging my ass yesterday because I was up late the night before. I was scheduled to go to this after work “Meet N Greet” type function hosted by a financial company in the city, and put together by a professional organization that I’m apart of. By the time I got home from work, I really didn’t feel like going back outside to make the 51 min train ride. But, being that I’m trying to alter and enhance the direction of my life and my career, I carried my happy ass on. Boy am I glad I did that. The company’s presentation definitely spoke to my interests and needs as far as motivation to work and deliver on the job. I was really inspired by one manager in particular; a black woman that represented who and what I could be in x years with that company. I like the idea of that.

 

Work It Out

Last night I hung out with some guys folks I hadn’t seen in awhile. One in particular asks me about my workout plan, to which I reply, “what workout plan??” He informs me that I look…smaller*, and that whatever I’m doing is working for me.   Why thank ya!    

 

Ain’t that a–

I had a dream last night that I was back at this apartment my mom and I used to live in. Mom was out of town, so I had a gathering. We were drinking, playing spades, and I was getting some pretty shitty hands back to back. Finally, I get this CRAZY hand with both jokers, 3 Aces, and trickin’ off spades like whoa. Conveniently, everyone gets drunk and tired and doesn’t feel like playing anymore. They actually passed out mid-hand. I was PISSED! I woke up side-eyeing my ceiling.

 

“Got to be real, if you wanna hear the–”

I drove into work this morning listening to the janet. album on my original cassette tape (yup, its still hangin on). Man! Great album. Just what I needed cuz I barely got any rest last night…again, and Ms. Jackson got me to work with a lil extra pep in my step. Go back and revisit that album when you can! By the way, my favorite video of hers is for “You Want This”. I SO wanted to be one of JJ’s homegirls (like MC Lyte).

 

Pump it Up

I have a mini-interview today for another position with my current employer. I’m kinda pumped for it, because I really think I can contribute substantially to this department and I’m hoping the work is a little more interesting and engaging than what I’ve been doing. PLUS, I think its a promotion to a considerably higher salary grade (which I SOOOO deserve).

 

Needless to say…

I’m in a good mood.

Joined a group for NYC women looking to network and hang out together. Looking forward to what that may bring.

I’ve been invited to a couple of political events coming up, in support of Barack. I’m eager to check them out.

Superbowl is around the corner (the “guys” want me to come back and watch with them…easy boys).
Last weekend of football tho ( )
 
My friend is moving in with me this weekend; she’ll be staying for a month before she leaves NY for good. I’m excited to have her, though I’m sure I’ll be over it before she finishes putting her stuff down. But I know I’ll miss her when she’s gone, so I’m glad we can spend this time together before then. Hey, I’m getting a dresser out the deal, so I won’t be living outta my suitcase any longer! Ooo, and I’m gettin an air conditioner.

 

 
Considering how dismal my week began, things have TOTALLY changed direction and I feel more operational in my life. And considering how I was feeling earlier in the week, I am more than pleased with what lies ahead of me.

 
ETA: I just learned that payroll hadn’t accurately credited me for my paid time off after I hit my 1 year anniversary with the company last year. So I actually had more days available than I thought. Turns out I have 10.5 days that are carrying over into this year. Say Whaaatt?? This is truly a blessing, because I have MAD trips planned (& unplanned) for this year, and was wondering how I was gonna afford to take all this time off. Thank you Jesus! Thank You, Thank You, Thank You!!

 

 

This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.

 

 

 

* I’ve always wondered…is it rude to tell someone that they look like they’ve lost weight? Especially if they are a noticeably bigger person? I mean, because I am actively seeking to lose weight, I love hearing those kind of remarks. But if you’re just doing you, and someone asks about your weight, is that offensive? Even slightly?

Does it depend on how well you know the person?

Just wondering.

 

 

 

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FYI…

I made the moves to contact the friend who wronged me, and still haven’t talked to him. Of course he didn’t answer his phone, so I left a message. He calls me the following day while I’m at work, so of course I’m not about to get into it at that moment. I advise him of when I get off work, and he said he’d call me after then. Never heard from him.

So typical. And I’m sure he has a GREAT reason for why he didn’t call.     Guess it wasn’t meant for me to go there with him. I’m over it now. This is just more fuel for me to walk away, and leave it (& him) alone.

I need to find me a good tailor. Clothes just do NOT look good on me off the rack (that or I just don’t know how to pick ‘em, which is highly likely). And as my body is shrinking, its getting more and more awkward for me.

What I REALLY need is to holla at Tim Gunn and Veronica Webb so they can hook a sista up with some style. But wait, do they give you money to shop like Stacey and Clinton do? I haven’t really watched Tim’s show, but I love me some him!

 

So, I’m asking that EVERYONE (yes, you too) write to Tim, Veronica, Stacey, and Clinton, and convince them that I am a living, breathing, walking fashion horror, and need their services IMMEJIATELY!

That would be greatly appreciated.     Thanks in advance.

 

But anyways, bodies. Shapes. Sizes. Is anyone educated about these things? Here are my concerns:
 

I used to have a big booty, but I’m afraid I’m losing it. Or maybe I’m drowning it in my oversized/wrongly-shaped pants. How do you find pants to fit and accentuate the badunk?? Pockets? Pleats? Straight-leg? Boot-cut?
 

I’m much smaller up top than I am at the bottom. Shirts are ALWAYS too big in the chest when I buy them to fit around the bottom. I tried to rock this A-line shirt that is smaller at top and flares out at the bottom. Uh uh, it made me look preggers. So, they’re either too “baggy” or too “snug”.
*sigh*
Is there any particular shape of shirt that I should be looking for? Maybe a certain material or pattern that evens things out?

 
Is there anything I should definitely stay away from? Plus, I have long legs, and a short torso. I don’t know if that means anything to anyone, but ummm, if you know how to dress that body, lemme know!

 

I know, I know. Pictures would help. Eh, do your best!

 

Is there any area of the body or a particular shape that you guys have the most trouble with when it comes to clothing?

Are you a fashion misfit turned pro? What helped you along the way?

Is there a good website, magazine, or book that one can reference?

Has anyone ever used a live fashion consultant or stylist?

Do you visit the tailor often? Is it costly? Worth the investment? Absolutely necessary? (You can’t believe that there are people who DON’T use a tailor?)

 
Are you just as clueless as I am??

 

h.e.l.p.

 

 

This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.

 

 

 

P.S. Does anyone else buy lunch in the office cafe, and eat with their co-workers while enduring long, boring (and sometimes silent) conversation?

 

 

 

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…I know what I’m waiting on.

The ghost of last year’s……experience. It ended weird, he moved on unexpectedly. I didn’t know how to take it, cuz it still hurt. He’s trying to still be in touch, and I can’t let him in. Am I still mad? I’m sure I’m over it.

But now I know. I’m waiting on him to say “I’m sorry”.

 

 

 

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Not speaking up for myself.

I never thought I was the meek and mild type. The kind who just goes along for the ride, and doesn’t cause a stir. Well, I’m not, when it comes to strangers and those I keep at a distance. But when it comes to those I hold close (well, closer than far)……different story. Entirely.

I was talking with my friend about it yesterday, and discovered that I behave something like an abused spouse when it comes to people who are close to me (well, closer than far). In the interest of keeping the peace, keeping the relationship we have, not inconveniencing them with the weight of my hurt feelings……I rarely voice disappointment or disenchantment with their behavior towards me. And if I ever do voice my feelings, it’s long after I had been holding them in for so long, that everything just explodes all at once. So not the way to go.

I’m getting over that. I’m getting OUT of that. And I find that I feel MUCH better when I just SAY it…whatever it is…right then and there, exactly as I feel it, and not harbor it inside where it only hurts me (further). But old habits die hard. I’m doing better at identifying when I’m not being forthright with someone, but at times it takes that someone to pull it out of me because I refuse to “go there”.

 
Hmph.

 

take me there, I wanna go there.

This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.

P.S. Does anyone else eat the skin on their baked potato?