they always come back
Always.
While I used to be excited to hear from these ghosts, all I can think of now is, “Da hell do you want?” Its always something. Its never rarely just to genuinely see about me. I mean, does it really matter to you how things are going and how I’m doing?? Be for real. You just wanna get all up in my business and see if there’s something for you in the mix. I’m sure.
Most of the time, these ghosts have something they want to share with you. So rather than being honest and upfront, they fake like they wanna hear about your news, just so you can ask about theirs, and in turn, they can tell you what they REALLY called for. Mmmhmmm, I’m hip to the game.
So unless I am genuinely pleased to hear from this person, I don’t share my good news with them (I mean, for why?). They get the generic, one-word answers. Furthermore……I don’t ask them any questions, cuz thats what they want. That’s what they’re waiting on. Me to give them the cue to rant or rave about whatever’s going on in their life. Plus, by asking the question, it almost sounds like I care (and lately, I don’t).
At the moment, I have 2 people contacting me on a somewhat regular basis (however, after my short exchange with one of those people yesterday, I may have cut my number of ghosts in half). But whats funny about these two people, is that in previous times, I have made a sincere attempt and showed interest in expanding our relationship (friendship). All I got in return was some bullshit, some runaround, and some excuses. Instead of wasting even MORE time to befriend people who didn’t want the same, I cut my losses.
Now…I’m gettin the “how are you” inquiries, and the “how come I don’t hear from you”s.
Cuz when you did hear from me, you acted like you wasn’t hearin’ me. 
Its cool, tho. But they WILL be real with me, whether they mean to or not. They’ll keep asking me questions, hoping I’ll give them the opening back in, and I’ll keep deflecting their questions until they either come clean or just give up and go away.
Both of which suits me just fine.
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people understand and feel comfortable when you like them or when you hate them. Apathy is a little more discomforting. Think about it, apathy is really the worse thing you can feel about someone. That’s what’s driving them nuts. You probably haven’t shaken the other ghost. its just human nature to seek a reaction! keep “not caring”.
Posted by: Abi | January 25th, 2008 11:21
*sigh* I hope the rain washes away the 2 ghosts lurking around these parts.
Posted by: Andrea | January 25th, 2008 11:24
I agree with Abi. Apathy gets em everytime. I blogged about it once upon a time…*digging through the archives*
Posted by: Andrea | January 25th, 2008 11:34
You soooooo sound like me right about now. Craziness!
Posted by: Young Miss | January 25th, 2008 14:39
…so ummm, just stopping by to say…
“I haven’t heard from you, how come?”
LOL
Posted by: Blah Blah Blah | January 25th, 2008 15:23
I have a post that speaks to this very thing waiting in my drafts. Da hell do you want indeed!
Posted by: Vivrant Thang | January 27th, 2008 15:46
I have dropped so many people because of this. It has gotten to the point that when I do answer the phone, they are upfront with their questions. I still give the one syllable answers.
Posted by: nexgrl | January 27th, 2008 17:00