is it worth it?
January 28th, 2008 | 
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I’m still naw, I’m even MORE heated.
Something happened between me and a “friend” earlier this year. An incident that deemed him unworthy of my friendship. At the time that it happened, I was mad. Mad enough to let him know that I wasn’t happy, later ignore him and decide that our friendship (that never was) is officially over.
Going along with a new initiative I started, I took it upon myself to write in detail about this incident (I can’t remember if I brought it to the blog, but I doubt it). As I started writing more and more, and got to thinking about it, I realized that the incident was far more messed up than I originally thought, and that I was WAY more upset than I wanted to be. I could actually feel tears of anger and frustration build up in my eyes as I further explored my feelings about this situation.
At this point, I want to call him (because he’s not local) and tell him exactly how I feel about it. Cuz he doesn’t really know, and I don’t feel like I can let him get away with NOT knowing just how fucked up his actions were.
- And no, this isn’t just some dude that I was feelin, or was feelin me, and now we’re not cool anymore. No, this was actually supposed to be a friend of mine, someone I’ve “known” (and I use that term loosely) for 5 years, who goes on about how he values me and my friendship, but can’t even remember (or accurately guess) what day, or at least what month, I was born.
The diplomatic side of me wants to just “let it go”, and make it a point not to deal with him in any capacity ever again. But thinking about it recently……I’m just not settled with that. I actually feel like I could implode if I don’t get this off of my chest.
I know you guys are gonna tell me its not worth it to go back and rehash this situation, but something tells me that by the time I get home this evening, it’ll be hash browns, corned beef hash, and every other kinda hash you can think of.
I’m pissed the fuck off, yo.
This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
Especially THAT sorry muthasucka.
I guess I’m different because I think that you should call him and voice your opinion. He may not care, but I’m sure your knowing that you told him exactly how you feel will make you feel better. You can then delete him from your life.
I think that, if you’re unable to get past this, then you need to let him know why.
But be prepared for him to not want to hear it. In case that happens, I suggest typing it all up in an e-mail or letter before-hand.
That way, you can let him know one way or the other and won’t suffer that feeling of sudden impotence after being cut off or hung up on, in the middle of something very emotional.
Good luck.
See West, and thats why I prefer to do these things in person. The “hang up” factor. Its too easy to pretend not to hear me and run away over the phone. But if I thought he was the type of person to hang up on me in this situation (or any situation), I wouldn’t even bother.
Its not even so much about him, I’m just so tired of having my feelings abused and disregarded.
He’s gonna know that what he did hurt me, and that it hurt me this much, and that he’ll never be allowed close enough to do it again.
~B. Good
In this respect, I believe that you should do what you have to. Generally, the new me would advise you to let it go and that he isn’t worth even the thought you are giving him. However, you must take care of yourself. And if never telling him the effect his action have had on you means that you will continue to go back to this place and feel the anger you currently feel, tell him what he doesn’t want to hear. hang up or not. Once you get it off your chest, you’ll at least feel cleansed if not better!
I say tell him! I would probably go the e.mail route because you can say everything you wanna say that’s carefully thought out and without interruption. It would probably also depend on the type of relationship you guys had tho.
I was actually thinking about doing that with an ex female friend of mine because I find myself still pissed off about it although much time has passed.