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January 29th, 2008January 29th, 2008 | CategoryCategory: bgoodies, decisions for you, side thoughts

 

Not speaking up for myself.

 

I never thought I was the meek and mild type. The kind who just goes along for the ride, and doesn’t cause a stir. Well, I’m not, when it comes to strangers and those I keep at a distance. But when it comes to those I hold close (well, closer than far)……different story. Entirely.

I was talking with my friend about it yesterday, and discovered that I behave something like an abused spouse when it comes to people who are close to me (well, closer than far). In the interest of keeping the peace, keeping the relationship we have, not inconveniencing them with the weight of my hurt feelings……I rarely voice disappointment or disenchantment with their behavior towards me. And if I ever do voice my feelings, it’s long after I had been holding them in for so long, that everything just explodes all at once. So not the way to go.

I’m getting over that. I’m getting OUT of that. And I find that I feel MUCH better when I just SAY it…whatever it is…right then and there, exactly as I feel it, and not harbor it inside where it only hurts me (further). But old habits die hard. I’m doing better at identifying when I’m not being forthright with someone, but at times it takes that someone to pull it out of me because I refuse to “go there”.

 
Hmph.

 

take me there, I wanna go there.

 

 

This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.

 

 

 

P.S. Does anyone else eat the skin on their baked potato?

 

 

 


7 Comments

  1. Young Miss :: January 29th, 2008 1:59 pm

    That’s right girl… let it out as you see fit!

    …and yes I eat the skin on my baked potato (sometimes). Mostly if I bake it myself so I know the outside is washed properly.

  2. Abi :: January 29th, 2008 2:32 pm

    I eat the skin!

    I used to be just like this (maybe I still am). But email has been a source of deliverance for explicitly expressing my sentiments (good or bad). Sound like you prefer face to face, but impersonal can be just as affective.

    The best thing (i’ve found) is someone who is close who forces you to to tell them what’s wrong, when its wrong! It gives you confidence to address issues with anyone. Because the base of the problem is the concern that bringing something up will negatively impact your current relationship. So you have to come to realization that a healthy relationship would only change for the better!

  3. patrice :: January 29th, 2008 4:07 pm

    No I dont eat the skin of the potato or bell peppers.

    Let it out chic you will feel so much better

  4. Andrea :: January 29th, 2008 5:39 pm

    Doesn’t it feel GOOD? Yay for liberation!

    But again, it’s that “good friend” in you that cares so much for others. Nuthin wrong with givin that care to someone who deserves it…YOU!

  5. GC :: January 29th, 2008 7:03 pm

    can’t remember the last baked potato I had

    hmmm… it’s nice to keep the peace sometimes; nice to speak up sometimes; nice to know when to do one and not the other and vice versa; comes with experience I suppose. But it’s hard–speaking up. Especially if speaking up might mean the end of something familiar.

  6. West :: January 29th, 2008 7:20 pm

    I think I’m closer to speaking up too much than too little.

    And no, I don’t mess with the skin unless I’m STARVING for potato. (I love’em.)

  7. Vivrant Thang :: January 30th, 2008 1:02 am

    I’m in a similar situation. I have an issue with a close friend but I talk to other people about it rather than talk to her. Part of it is that she already has so much on her plate that this seems minor. But still…I’m distancing myself and I know she feels it. It will have to be addressed.

    And no, I just eat the inside on the rare occasion that I eat a baked tater.

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