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I’m still naw, I’m even MORE heated.

Something happened between me and a “friend” earlier this year. An incident that deemed him unworthy of my friendship. At the time that it happened, I was mad. Mad enough to let him know that I wasn’t happy, later ignore him and decide that our friendship (that never was) is officially over.

Going along with a new initiative I started, I took it upon myself to write in detail about this incident (I can’t remember if I brought it to the blog, but I doubt it). As I started writing more and more, and got to thinking about it, I realized that the incident was far more messed up than I originally thought, and that I was WAY more upset than I wanted to be. I could actually feel tears of anger and frustration build up in my eyes as I further explored my feelings about this situation.

At this point, I want to call him (because he’s not local) and tell him exactly how I feel about it. Cuz he doesn’t really know, and I don’t feel like I can let him get away with NOT knowing just how fucked up his actions were.

And no, this isn’t just some dude that I was feelin, or was feelin me, and now we’re not cool anymore. No, this was actually supposed to be a friend of mine, someone I’ve “known” (and I use that term loosely) for 5 years, who goes on about how he values me and my friendship, but can’t even remember (or accurately guess) what day, or at least what month, I was born.

The diplomatic side of me wants to just “let it go”, and make it a point not to deal with him in any capacity ever again. But thinking about it recently……I’m just not settled with that. I actually feel like I could implode if I don’t get this off of my chest.

I know you guys are gonna tell me its not worth it to go back and rehash this situation, but something tells me that by the time I get home this evening, it’ll be hash browns, corned beef hash, and every other kinda hash you can think of.

I’m pissed the fuck off, yo.

This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
Especially THAT sorry muthasucka.

Always.

 
Ghosts of friendships/relationships past.

While I used to be excited to hear from these ghosts, all I can think of now is, “Da hell do you want?” Its always something. Its never rarely just to genuinely see about me. I mean, does it really matter to you how things are going and how I’m doing?? Be for real. You just wanna get all up in my business and see if there’s something for you in the mix. I’m sure.

 
Most of the time, these ghosts have something they want to share with you. So rather than being honest and upfront, they fake like they wanna hear about your news, just so you can ask about theirs, and in turn, they can tell you what they REALLY called for. Mmmhmmm, I’m hip to the game.

 
So unless I am genuinely pleased to hear from this person, I don’t share my good news with them (I mean, for why?). They get the generic, one-word answers. Furthermore……I don’t ask them any questions, cuz thats what they want. That’s what they’re waiting on. Me to give them the cue to rant or rave about whatever’s going on in their life. Plus, by asking the question, it almost sounds like I care (and lately, I don’t).

 
At the moment, I have 2 people contacting me on a somewhat regular basis (however, after my short exchange with one of those people yesterday, I may have cut my number of ghosts in half). But whats funny about these two people, is that in previous times, I have made a sincere attempt and showed interest in expanding our relationship (friendship). All I got in return was some bullshit, some runaround, and some excuses. Instead of wasting even MORE time to befriend people who didn’t want the same, I cut my losses.

Now…I’m gettin the “how are you” inquiries, and the “how come I don’t hear from you”s.

 
*eyebrow raise*

 
Cuz when you did hear from me, you acted like you wasn’t hearin’ me.  

 
Its cool, tho. But they WILL be real with me, whether they mean to or not. They’ll keep asking me questions, hoping I’ll give them the opening back in, and I’ll keep deflecting their questions until they either come clean or just give up and go away.

Both of which suits me just fine.

 

 

This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.

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I’ve been tagged by GC to complete this meme. Cool. Here goes nothin:

1. At what age do you wish to marry?

   Not sure that I wish to marry.

2. What color do you like most?

   It used to be blue, but brown has a stronger presence these days (certainly not in the blog).

3. Where is the place that you want to go the most?

   At the moment, I wanna go home to see my family and the pets.

4. Which part of you do you hate the most?

   Hate is such a strong word. It used to be my indifference and indecisiveness, but I’m steadily coming out of that this year.

5. When you encounter a sad moment, what do you do?

   A sad moment? Depending on the level of sadness, I’d probably call my mommy. Otherwise, I’ll throw on some music, curl up in bed, and sleep it off. I’m sure there are some tears in between. I can’t shake those bad boys lately.

6. What are you afraid to lose the most?

   My health.

7. If you win $1 million, what would you do?

   Pinch myself so I can wake up from the dream.

8. How did you celebrate the New Year?

   Celebrate is another strong word, but I stayed home, cried myself to sleep, woke up at 7am, and cracked open a bottle of Asti. Then I watched the USC football team lay the smack down on Illinois in the Rose Bowl.

9. Til now, what is the moment that you regret the most?

   I don’t know. I have a couple do-over’s in mind, but nothing I couldn’t (and haven’t) restored since then. I guess ending my virginity without giving it more thought.

10. Which type of person do you hate the most?

    Liars and bullshitters. They seem to go hand in hand.

11. What is your ambition?

    To make the most out of my days, doing things that bring joy to this life, and not waste them sitting behind someone else’s desk.

12. If you had one wish what would you wish for?

    (well we know it ain’t marriage, lol)

    World Peace.

13. Name one of your body parts your hubby or boyfriend tells you he adores:

    …

14. What is the best gift you can give someone this year?

    Like GC said, I’mma just leave folks to their own devices.

15. List two of your Top Ten New Year’s Resolutions.

    Damn, TOP ten resolutions? You mean people make more than THAT?

    Well I didn’t make 10 resolutions. I didn’t even make two resolutions. I made less than one, actually. Mainly, not to do the same shit I did in 2007.

16. What do you need to do this year in order for you to be happier in life?

    Get some direction on the job front and end this quarter-life crisis.

17. What was the best lesson you learned in 2007 (be specific)?

    There is no benefit of the doubt.

18. In this very moment, are you doing what you thought you’d be doing at this stage in your life?

    Ummm?? I guess so. I don’t even know. I had an answer for the “where do you wanna be in 5 years” question, but damned if I remember what it was.

19. If you could do over any moment or decision in your life, what would it be?

    Isn’t this like the regrets question? Besides the virginity thing……I guess I woulda stopped myself from gaining so much weight after the spring of 2002.

20. What current life decision is troubling you the most?

    “What exactly am I doing in NY, how long am I gonna stay here, and for why?”

So now I’m supposed to tag 8-10 people?? Whatever, I’ll tag a few. Kofi, Nexgrl, Courtney, Aimee (if she’s out there), Patrice, and anyone else who wants to take a stab at it.

 

Here’s the rule: Remove 1 question from above, and add in your personal question, make it a total of 20 questions, then tag 8-10 people in your list, list them out at the end of this post. Notify them in their chat box that he/she has been tagged.

 

 

This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.

Oooo, let me tell yall……I know what a BLACK man sounds like, ya heard?

There’s a white guy that sits next to me in the office, but he mostly works from home. He rarely comes into the office. Well, maybe once a week. Maybe.

So as usual, I’m sittin in my cubicle, minding my own business…writing a blog. Thats when I hear this voice, this frequency that is ever so familiar to thine ears, coming from the white mans cube. My ears immediately perk up and tilt to the right to hear it more clearly. Yup, its a black man. Well, being that there are only a handful of them here…and I know (of) most of ‘em, I had to see who this was. He didn’t sound like the usual suspects.

I ain’t wanna be obvious about it, but I didn’t wanna miss out either. Curse this slight, faux wall that lies between us! Just then, someone comes along to introduce himself to the brotha and welcome him to the team. Ah ha, he is a new hire.

I casually turn my head to the right and lean back to catch a glimpse of homie.

 
Con-firmed. (nothing to write home about, but enough to blog about)

 

black man sonar

Is this from years of conditioning? I honestly couldn’t help myself.

 

This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.