you’re here… alone?
Das right, I’m rollin’ SO-LO.
A quick shout out to the solo’s! I feels yall. I really do.
Yeah, I’ve been going out lately by myself and wit myself. The shock & awe on peoples faces when they discover that I’m not with anybody or meeting anybody is……it’s getting to be a goal and a secret joy of mine. 
I almost feel empowered in the moment.
I will say that on any given night, it can go either way. I might have a great time, or I might be bored and leave within the hour (though I usually try to stay for at least an hour to give things a chance to pick up). But more often than not, I end up making more moves when I go somewhere alone than I do when I’m attached at the hip to someone.
Makes sense, right? I figure people pity me, and reach out to me more, lol. Or maybe they admire my bravado and want to award and applaud. 
So now I’m gettin’ used to just going at it alone, I’m more comfortable exploring by myself, and I’m fearless when presented with the opportunity.
what’s the deal with yall?
Do you roll solo? Would you roll solo? Have you ever tried? If not, what’s keeping you from doing so?
Is it different when a man rolls alone, versus when a woman does it?
When you’ve gone out, have you encountered
people who were out by themselves?
What did you think of them?
As with anything, you should always take safety precautions. Let someone know when and where you’re going; update them throughout the night if you can (when you get there, when you’re leaving, when you get home).
But its not so bad, and if there’s something you want to do and there’s no one around to do it with you……don’t be afraid to go at it alone (well, depending on what it is, I guess). But if its as simple as checking out a new lounge or a new gallery opening or something……
(just make sure you get there early so you can get a seat or a good spot at the bar - standing around alone is kinda awkward, lol, especially without a drank in your hand!)
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Because of my jobs I always have people around me. Sometimes I really enjoy taking myself out to dinner or going to see a movie that I KNOW that none of my friends would dig.
Posted by: Tex In The City | March 7th, 2008 10:06
Yea, I’m a totally chicken when it comes to doing things on my own. As far as going places that is. I feel I always need someone with me, or else I’ll look like a damn fool. Yea, horrible.
I don’t think I could ever go to a club, dinner, or movie by myself. I feel those are group activities and there is more fun in a crowd rather then by yourself, especially if you are a woman.
Yea, so for now, I don’t think doing anything on my own like that is on the agenda, but I do applaud you for doing so! YOU GO GIRL! lol
Posted by: Roxanne | March 7th, 2008 14:03
I enjoy spending time alone. My ideal day is to go to the early movie, do lunch, go get a mani/pedi, and head to a bookstore before heading home. I would disappear for hours, poor husband would be looking all over for me, calling all over asking people if they’ve seen me. LOL So now I leave a note saying I’m ‘disappearing be back later’.
Posted by: Patrice | March 7th, 2008 19:22
I’m glad you posted this because it’s something I’ve been pondering a lot lately. With summer approaching, I know I want to be out and about. Friends that I know would be down to go wherever whenever don’t live here. The ones that do…let’s just say I need some new hanging partners.
I have no problems going most places alone like concerts, museums, movies, etc. However, lounges, bars and clubs I’ve tried it several times and am not entirely comfortable with it just yet. I would just prefer to have some company. However, it’s been keeping me from doing things I want to do so I’m about to get over that.
It is different when a man and a woman goes out alone, but I don’t let that deter me. I don’t think anything when I see someone out alone. Good for them.
Posted by: Vivrant Thang | March 9th, 2008 15:06
I do go out alone. I haven’t gone to a club or a concert alone, but I do go to the movies, museums, and gallery openings alone. Sometimes when I go places with othere, they make me wish I had gone alone. I hate “sticks in the mud.”
Posted by: nexgrl | March 9th, 2008 17:42