a symptom of assumption
March 12th, 2008 | 
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Yall, please excuse me for a sec…
B. Good knows what you were expecting.
She had some expectations of her own.
None of yall got what you expected.
Ain’t. that. fun-ny.
(get off the blog)
Mmmkay……so, I’m all for being honest about what you want out of a situation. Time and time again I’ve said that I want a guy to be real about what he wants from me.
But my question is…
I met this guy last week, and he called me a few days later. First conversation, he’s talkin’ about coming over to snuggle.
Huh??
I don’t know you, man! Besides, I’d already told him I didn’t have a man, and wasn’t lookin for a “man” in ANY shape, form, or fashion (that includes cut buddies and “snuggle” buddies). Friends is the most I’m willing to consider. He tells me…
“I know, and I’m not tryna be your man. But everyone needs SOMEone, that one person they have to snuggle with now and then.”
***cue 112, lol***
Eh, not me. He continues with…
“Basically…I find you very attractive and eventually,
Well alllllllllrighty then! Can’t say that I blame him. If I were him, I’d wanna f*ck me too.
I appreciated his honesty (however crass), so I responded with some honesty of my own……AIN’T GON HAPPEN! Thats just not what I want from you, dude.
Now, let’s recap. He’s telling me he wants to bone. I’m telling him I don’t. Clearly we are in opposition here.
“Oh, I mean, we can take it slow. What, you need 2 or 3 months?”
Huh??
Now I’m on a timetable?? LOL. So if I don’t wanna bone, does that mean we can’t be friends? *snicker*
I reckon that’s what you call perseverance. He probably figured he coulda swooned me and I woulda gave in…eventually, right?
Hehe, guess I can’t knock a guy for trying.
People are fun-ny! 
I’m taking a different stance these days. There IS no benefit of the doubt. There’s no chance that this guy would ever “settle” for a platonic friendship, at least, not with me. Hopefully he too realized our conflicting interests, and won’t call again (cuz I surely won’t be answering).
The joy of being REAL…upfront.
The beauty of accepting the REAL…no fronts.
This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
I guess you have to give it to him for being honest. And now you know you shouldn’t be answerin. lol I will say though - it took me 6 years to change my mind about Mark. bahaha. But then, he never came right out and said THAT.
I’m sorry…I stopped and fell out at the small print and never quite recovered.
You already know how I feel about the rest of these shenanigans…but be out with perseverance. You gotta figure, the snuggle line musta worked with someone before…LOL
Thats an ill dude. Make sure you keep to your guns and keep telling him upfront. Soon he’ll get the hint. But that shouldn’t stop you two from being friends.
Did he really say that? OMG Did he really think that would get him some? I agree, this worked with somebody before and he thought it would work with you, too. He must be hella fine to even consider trying it. For some women that gets him right in.
WOW! I can not believe he just came out and said it like that! lol Can you imagine that those lines worked on somebody?! LAWD!
I have had this combo at least 20billion times! I guess they think it’s perserverence (sp? lol) but it gets annoying! Lawd hab mercy. I just wanna hold up a sign! lol
hmmm… he wasn’t even trying to finesse. He just cut to the chase. Wow. You would expect that from a teenager–not a grown a$$ man.
Lawdhamercy! While his honesty may be cool, his approach was not. Hey, most dudes want to give it to you as soon as they can after meeting you. But to say it in such a crass manner is immature and disrespectful. You’re right in sending that fool to the left.
COM-UH-DEE!!! You didn’t know persistence is usually rewarded with something else that start with P lol. Yeah can’t knock him for trying, but kudos for you for being upfront!