reciprocity
March 19th, 2008 | 
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Who do I have to be?
You’d think because you generally do right by others, that they’d do the same for you. I used to wonder why people don’t think the way I do; don’t operate the way I do.
I mean, I knew we’re all different, but there was still some subconscious notion in my head that if I put it out there, I’d get it in return.
There was something within me that naively thought because I treated others how I wanted to be treated, that they would indeed treat me the same.
So what do you do when you realize that’s not the case?
Do you stop giving others the courtesy you’d want in return? Perhaps you become more picky about which courtesy’s you give to whom.
Me, I just stopped wanting (or anticipating) those courtesy’s from others altogether, and proceeded to just give them to myself. But sometimes, I still can’t help but expect common courtesy and decency from those I’ve been courteous to and decent with.
hmph.
This is SHESOPINIONATED.com,
and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
But now, I’m not so surprised when others come up short.
I began giving people exactly what they seem to want. If you’re rude or just insensitive to my wants/needs, I’m going to give you the same treatment.
See today’s blog. LOL.
I’m with you though. Don’t stop being YOU. Just exert your energy on yourself and those that deem themselves worry, not those you mistakenly deem worthy.
I’ve reached a point where I do what I know is right to do (courtesy, respect) and KIM. My feelings were getting hurt too much placing my expectations on other people.
I’m soooooo feeling you on this. My heart says continue to do right by others, but my mind says to treat them like they treat you. I find myself thinking about the same thing.
Man, you just took me back with that song. Whew lawd! I used to rock that over and over in college trying to figure out how he could do me like that!
Anyhow, it’s the way of the world. But what keeps me sane is that I do believe good guys ultimately finish first. And what goes up must come down. This has kept me from catching MANY a charge.