People Who Bring Out The WORST In You
August 25th, 2008 | 
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I mean the absolute worst. You could be perfectly fine, and the mere mention of their being turns you into a wise-cracking BEAST.
I’m talkin’ about the kind of person where you can’t find anything positive or pleasant to say to them or about them.
NOT.ONE.THING.
And while I can crack jokes with the best of ‘em (please believe it!)……I really don’t like ragging on people. It doesn’t do me any good, and its a negative energy that I don’t want running through me or surrounding me.
Fuckin’ up my ch’i.
For this reason, I tend to place such people outside of my life. I completely disconnect myself from these people at all costs. Whatever the sacrifice…its worth it for peace in my spirit. And ultimately……I’m doing them a favor as well……saving them from the wrath of B. Good (see, still thinking of others while thinking of myself; I’m not a total ass, lol).
But what do you do when that person is still apart of a circle that you are apart of? Do you separate yourself from the circle? Do you kick them out the circle? Do whichever’s easiest? Or do you just learn to co-exist?
Does the circle get a say in the matter? Should they get a vote on who stays and who goes? (kinda like on Big Brother, lol)
Has anyone had to deal with someone who literally made your skin crawl as you watched the horns grow out the sides of their head?
(ok, maybe that was a bit extreme)
But yall figgadeal me.
hummm… I’m all about co-existing. I like to keep the peace. Like when I found out that a girl I was friends with in nursing school had slept with my man in the past and was still tryna holla (although she didn’t know it was the same person). We co-existed for the rest of the year with the same group of friends. Come to think of it, I prob only kept the peace because I knew we were almost done with school.
As a person who generally dislikes people, this is a tough one. I cant remember the last person I really didnt like. (Im sure if I pause for a moment I can come up with someone). But truthfully, Im not good at masking. Im a very cordial and kind person, but it’s also hard for me to exist in misery. So Id prolly remove myself from the nonsense.
Tho I like the Big Brother idea. lol
In my case, I stopped hanging with the circle. When they asked my if I would join in an outing, I point blank asked who would be there and that would determine if I was going. If I went to the event and the person that irked me showed up, I would leave immediately.
missed you saturday nite
I stuck around for the fun
where were u?
Do what’s best for you. Obviously it’s an uncomfortable kind of situation, and unfortunately this is a familiar place, but *shrugs* we all have to do what we have to do.
Thinking back, when there’s drama on the table, I’ve most often times diassociated myself, but there is a circle I’ve never thought about ever having to disassociate with and so that makes this more difficult…way more.
no one can bring anything out of you. the test is to not have it there in the first place. why give anyone that much power or influence over you? why should anyone have the ability to change your demeanor? why should anyone cause you to question leaving your circle? your state of being is not dictated on anothers presence, but the choice of how you deal with their presence. save your anger for someone who matters.
“The sun will come out tomorrow” LOL.
The last line above is the truth though. It resonated with me on Sunday, and I’ve been all good ever since.
You know me, I’m all about distancing myself from such people, however after some time, I always start to feel bad about that decision and wonder if we could have co-existed.
I would say, give the situation and person space and when YOU are ready to tackle the issues at hand, THEN deal with them. It might take a couple of weeks, months or years, but it needs to be on YOUR terms or you won’t be happy with the resolution.
As for the circle of friends, I’ve learned it isn’t fair to punish others for something another person did, so don’t distance yourself from the rest of the circle, because good friends are so hard to come by!