Someone Who Lies
October 11th, 2008 | 
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See, I don’t wanna be a non-believer, and total skeptic. And even though I have those tendencies, I want to think that I’m just hyper-sensitive due to the experiences I’ve had. But muhfuckas are indeed LIARS.
So what do you do when you catch someone in a lie? Meaning, you’ve “stumbled” across some information that wasn’t meant for you to see, but now you’ve seen it and now you know.
Do you bust ‘em out?? If so……how? Do you tell them about the information you’ve seen? Or do you just elude to the fact that you know what wasn’t meant for you to know, and its not important HOW you know?
Do you cut them off, with no explanation or conversation? Just, dead it.
Do you file it back, know for yourself that this person is a liar, and proceed to use the situation to your advantage while limiting your interactions with them?
I plan on responding, but I’m wondering what others think about it?
Hello there!
This is an interesting dilemma..
If you STUMBLED UPON the information deceptively…meaning that you were putting yourself into something you had NO permission to..then how can YOU bust on someone for being shady? If you STUMBLED UPON the information legitimately then you can call them out on their lie but what is it that you want that person to DO then? Say, “okay, yes I lied”. Then what? Are you going to feel satisfied? No. You will still probably distrust the person anyway so therefore busting them out didn’t change ANYTHING in the relationship other than just informing the person that they have been busted.
Just a little piece of advice from the preacher! (smiles)
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Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
Just dealt with this situation with a guy I had been dating for the past two months.
He told me one thing and I found out from a very reliable source he was lying. My take, confront and then cut off!
I wanted to know if he’d continue lying if asked about it, so I asked (gave him an opportunity to come clean) and he continued lying and I knew then, I had to let him go.
Trust your instincts. It’s better to know if he’s real or not, sooner than later!
I always opt for the last option…file it away for future use. Done it before, saved me some drama and other times it backfired cos if I had come out with it when I found out, I’d had saved myself a lot of trouble down the line.
Sometimes you just don’t know how things turn out
Depends on who it is and what the info is.
But more than likely, I’d put the info under my hat to pull out at an opportune time while continuing to let said individual dig their filthy, lying grave. Unfortunately, I usually stumble upon stuff while minding my own business, which then makes you want to become a super sleuth. Lol.
Whatever course of action you take, don’t ignore what’s in your face.
Funny this happened just this week to my BF and me, and we talked about it yesterday.
I basically beat around the bush and waited for him to admit the fault. I gave him the vibe that something was wrong and I knew something about him, he took the bait and knew he was guilty so told me the “truth of the matter”. Then again, this method probably is only effective when you KNOW the person.
If the situation is dire, then I say go for the confrontation, if not, well try to bring it up in small talk…just happen to bring it up.
make your decision based on the desired outcome. what will it benefit you to bust them out? is your leaving dependent upon their reaction or response when you let them know you caught them? if you’re gonna leave ANYWAY then just say “you’re a liar and im leavin”…lol.