Friend Pool
My last post (and other unmentioned recent events) had me thinking about some things…
- …can you be friends (or more) with someone, if you don’t particularly care for their core group of friends?
- I guess you can, in a limited capacity. Very limited.
- …I don’t like when guys work me for my friends.
- “Where ya girls at? You bring ‘em with you? Can you hook me up with ya friend? You ain’t got a friend for me?”
Uh! Get off my friends! Thirsty ass dudes.
And don’t get me wrong, I’m not tryna cock block. If a dude and a friend of mine hit it off, cool! Do ya thang. But I’m not recruiting for your team from my group of friends. Shit, I won’t have no friends if I do that. They’ll be mad at me for settin’ em up for some bullshit. Especially if dude is buggin’ them all night for some play. Who wants to deal with that?
And…ummm, “my friends won’t like you.” Sorry, but you’ll mess around and get your feelings hurt tryna get at my friends. I’m saving you some heartache & pain, trust.
But for real, I hate that shit.
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Yeah. That first one can be a challenge. I think it works best (in relationships) when the traits that you dislike are the same ones that your mate finds questionable. Then you can at least relate on that level – as long as there’s SOMEthing you can appreciate about the friends, of course.
Heh. I’ve never known anyone to express that second sentiment, but it makes all the sense in the world.
Posted by: West | March 16th, 2009 10:26
The first one is a real challenge. i tend to think that the best relationships are when groups can be integrated with ease and that would be a problem if you don’t like their group of friends.
i feel the exact same way about the second one. i mean, really! i’m not asking you for a hook up so stop asking me for one.
Posted by: young woman on a journey | March 16th, 2009 10:54
Poor dudes. I think some of em think that it’ll be easier to score with a “referral” and depending on what they think of you, they figure they have enough info about your friend to be interested. It’s definitely a pain in the ass though esp if the girl is REALLY a friend. Who wants to set someone they care about up with someone who may mean them no good. You can call me a blocker ALL DAY, but I don’t do hook ups and match making because I’m NOT interested in being blamed if, I mean WHEN, it goes awry.
Posted by: Andrea | March 16th, 2009 15:05
yeah, I’m not able to be friends with people whose friends I don’t really care for
Posted by: GC | March 17th, 2009 10:30