Repost: so possible
so possible
Originally posted: 9.27.2007
For you to see that
maybe you and I could be.
- [~Raheem DeVaughn - "Is It Possible"]
Sometimes Most of the time, its hard for me to believe the things men (with a romantic interest) tell me.
Wait, let me back up for a moment.
Lately, I’ve been trying to embody this art my professor calls,
“Being Present to Being Present”.Its the process of eliminating past experiences and future expectations from your current thought, and being present to experience the here and now.
Its an unfiltered experience, that doesn’t take into account what happened before, and what you want to (or think will) happen next. Instead of dwelling on things that happened in the past (and can’t be changed), or things that have yet to happen (and may never take place), we should clear our minds and allow ourselves to fully experience what’s going on around us right NOW, at this moment.
As without filters, we are open to creativity and possibility that doesn’t usually exist when our thoughts are clouded by preconceived notions or beliefs.
I hope that made sense to somebody, because it makes alarming sense to me. Now, my professor was speaking from a consulting perspective, and was saying we should practice this skill in order to be better consultants. But I took it SO much further than he intended.
So instead of going into potential relationships with preconceived notions about what he’s probably gonna do, what he’s probably gonna say, and what he probably means when he says or does that……I try to have a clear and open mind, and just experience it as it is, with no filters. The possibilities are endless, when you don’t determine the ending before it happens. But to quote Big Pun……“it’s so hard.”
I wanna believe that he really likes me and is genuine when he says he wants to (at least) be friends, and I may even choose to believe him for now. But really, I’m still holding onto the thought that he could be full of it, he could just be saying this cuz it sounds good, he could mean it today but will he mean it tomorrow?
I realize that I don’t fully trust or believe men who show interest in me. They’ve been untrustworthy in the past; therefore, I expect them to be untrustworthy in the future.
What are the possibilities if I enter into potential relationships with NO expectations, NO fear, NO memory of the past, NO plans for the future, and just…………be?
I’m just wondering.
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and everyone is entitled to my opinion.
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I’d say it’s worth a try. All of the “NO’s” sound good except “no memory of the past.” I think in some instances u should remember the past, but don’t let it hinder ur future. After all, we’re supposed to learn from each experience, good and bad.
Posted by: Rece | June 11th, 2009 11:11
Ahhh- this line: “I realize that I don’t fully trust or believe men who show interest in me. They’ve been untrustworthy in the past; therefore, I expect them to be untrustworthy in the future.”- really resonates with me.
I am coming to the stark realization that while I am wildly attracted to men, I do not trust them nor do I genuinely “like” them as people.
LMAO.
Time to go back to therapy huh?
Posted by: Mahogany Misfit | July 26th, 2009 00:43